Settlement
“Until when, you want to stay single?” “Until it’s time” “Dear TF you have to marry” “Why? I don’t want to marry now; and, this guy has nothing in common with me” “Why??!! To settle …. And what do you want to marry? An angel” “Do you see me jumping around the room to tell me to settle?” “Huh” “Nothing” This is a conversation that I had with my mom many times. “At last we will settle” “What ?” “We will go to Kuwait after three months for good” “So it will be good, won’t it?” “Yes of course” Another conversation that I had with my mom three months before coming to Kuwait. “I hate living here” “You always say that and you are still here” “So do you want me to go?” “Go where?” “To England” “And how would you live there alone” “I will have to pass the three levels of CFA exams and work for part time in three companies in England; I will take an apartment in London and travel around the world; don’t worry I will visit Kuwait every year but not for more than ten days. I will not have time to stay alone” “So you want to settle in England and travel around the world; well go dream of it” “Ok” This was a conversation which I usually have with mom. I have searched in the Dictionary today for the meaning of settle and it was To put into order; arrange or fix definitely as desired. To put firmly into a desired position or place; establish. Still I don’t understand what it means. What is it? Is it a feeling that I should feel, should it be good to feel? Or it is just a thing people say to make you want to do the things in their minds?If it is a feeling, how does it feel?And when should I feel it?
posted by True Faith @ 5/03/2005 09:32:00 PM
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20 Comments:
poor you
well yeah like bishhh :P you have to get married,
well maybe i had a potential shaab for you who s half kuwaiti and half british and very nice dude but too bad he s younger than you
or maybe i should vnt said that,:)
but yeah like seriously getting married would be nice
why dont you like kuwait, what is there to do in london besides shoping:P
Do you have certain plans in your life which you think might be delayed if you got married? Or its just that you don't feel you're ready to be married?
I would recommend that if any man proposed to you, show him your blog. Tell him this is me & this is my way of thinking, & its up to you to decide if you wanna propose... I wont be surprised if you got thousands of marriage proposals after that ;)
Q8ibloger,
Who told you that I don't like Kuwait, It is my country and I am loyal to it; yet I miss living in England, It is my childhood and my life as a teenager, I had many things there you could say a whole true life that I don't have in Kuwait.
Bo ghazi,
Thank you for that sweet complement :) it really made me blush.
As an answer for your question is marriage is a whole life coming, which has many responsibilities that I am not sure if I could handle now. And the most important thing is the perfect guy didn't propose yet (A good Muslim that shares me my dreams).
BTW the topic is not about me getting married it is about the meaning of settlement that I still don't understand.
your mother is the opposite of mine!
whenever a guy propose she tells me u are still small and u had many chances so u will still have more and better!she wants an angel! and she still think I am small :\
I guess that angel doesnt exist :)
oh and forgot to tell u (CRAZY) ;p
Ra-1,
Your mother is just like my dad :p
And I already know that I am crazy :p
TF, ur mom is like my mom, and ur dad is like ur dad :p
i feel u, guurl :p
TF, I feel you and I know what you mean. The problem becomes once you have many places you call home, and even if you are around familiar faces, the different location plays a role in your sense of settlement.
That is when people ask me are you back for good, I say, no for now, because there is never a for good for me, life is unpredictable.
I never imagined I would live this long abroad, nor did I imagine I would live in two countries, and three different locations when I was young.
My advice just take matters one thing at a time, and inshallah all works well.
Don't stress too much on marriage, it will come inshallah, and I am sure there are many guys who would be lucky to have a woman like you.
Swair,
And your eyes are like my sister's eyes :)
Purg,
I don't feel good here, does that mean I am not settled.
You know what I feel peace in my soul when I travel to Istanbul or England (I know nothing common between the two countries), is that the sense of settlement you are talking about.
AS for the marriage; don't be so sure that they will be lucky :p
Got a Hummer, go for it ,, otherwise tell ur mom,, no car no settlement !!!
lil al, I saw clip last week of a Hummed H2 which was stuck in the middle of the desert in saudi arabia, & it couldn't move without the help an old toyota land cruiser (abo shanab as they call it) that pulled it from its suffering :p
So that means that I should go for a Land cruiser guy then.
Hear that Al land cruiser; you could sheft to it, you already did it before :p
As Austin Powers say.. yeeeeeeeeeaaaa baaaaaaabyeee yeeeeaaaa :p
Bo ghazi,
Shfeek tnagez chenik Ra-1's Kangaro ??!!!
What are you happy abour ?!
I had the marriage conversation so many times with many different people and I am out of excuses now :p
As for settle, it also means to become peaceful or to be calm. Maybe you will only settle in your Never Land :)
TF, I'm a land cruiser owner ;)
Hopeless poet,
Never Land = settlement
I like this answer :)
Bo ghazi,
:p
I only knew what that term meant when I lived in a university residence hall that I knew I will move out of eventually.
To 'not settle' is to not have a 'permanent' place to live in. At least that is how I define it.
I can't relate it to marriage though.
One can only feel settled, when the heart is at peace. Otherwise, no marriage; hummer; beach and any luxuries of this world can settle the heart.
So follow your heart, in a way so that everyone will be happy and no one will be upset (but that is very difficult, so you'll have to learn to let some people be upset (not being nasty), because you can't keep everyone happy; there will always be some wingers, whatever you do!).
suvai,
I am glad that you have a defenition for it.
Anonymous,
Peace and making everyone happy. No way
My peace will let my mom, dad, whole family and friends really upset.
Hi aljadel,
Thank you for your sweet comment.
But what I really want is the feeling that people call settlement (If it feels good) and what others call peace.
And I don't really think it comes with marriage. Because marriage is not always happiness and peace as I see from others experience.
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